Saturday, February 26, 2005

Kindred

What do you say to someone who is going through the very same, very rough patch in life that you find yourself in ? What do you say to someone who echoes every emotion running through your own mind ? Every memory that they relate, triggers a memory of your own. A memory that both of you are trying to forget. Everything they say, everything they do makes you wonder, how can different people have the exact same experiences ? React the exact same way ? Reach the exact same conclusions ? What do you say to such a person ? How do you tell them that you are going through the exact same thing, without trivialising it ? Without adding your problem to theirs ? How do you do this, when the root cause of all these problems is trust ?

20 Comments:

At February 26, 2005 2:35 AM, Blogger Kumari said...

i wish i knew...i really wish i knew...

For the moment i can just recite recite this poem by Sara Teasdale :

Let it be forgotten as a flower is forgotten,
Forgotten as a fire that once was singing gold,
Let it be forgotten forever and ever,
Time is a kind friend, he will make us old.

If any one asks, say it was forgotten
Long and long ago,
As a flower, as a fire, as a hushed footfall
In a long forgotten snow.

 
At February 26, 2005 10:31 AM, Blogger Vignesh said...

Thanks K !

Say, which bus DO you travel by ;) ?!?!?!

 
At February 26, 2005 7:50 PM, Blogger Khushee said...

What do you say? Hmm. Can't really say, but I think you'll figure out something :D

And it's great to see you back to blogging. I had no idea you were blogging again!

 
At February 27, 2005 5:06 AM, Blogger J said...

:-O
That's never happened with me.
Wots a 'rough patch'?
Guess i'm god's special child! :-p

 
At February 27, 2005 8:00 AM, Blogger Primalsoup said...

Deja Vu, is the next cruelest thing after hindsight!

 
At February 27, 2005 8:14 AM, Blogger Vignesh said...

J: Well, count yourself lucky then. You must be truly special ;)

Soups: I don't know if this is deja vu exactly. More a feeling of, well... I guess I've already tried to explain. Anyhoo... I agree with the latter part though. Hindsight is THE worst !

 
At February 27, 2005 7:05 PM, Blogger Kumari said...

Aah..never knew ppl in B'lore n Chn travel by same buses tho' it is in a way to the same slaughterhouse :p

 
At February 27, 2005 10:32 PM, Blogger jax said...

you cant say one damned thing man.after a point, words dont matter. "i understand","been there done that now try this" have no use. what i try doing is drag my friend out and together indulge in an escapistic venture that rejuvenates the mind and body. and sometimes letting the other person talk and think aloud, even though its for the hundredth time helps!

 
At February 27, 2005 10:58 PM, Blogger Grafxgurl said...

dont say anything....theyll know.. if they know you....

just tell them you know.. in that meannigful tone.. just that you "know".....

theyll feel it..

 
At February 27, 2005 11:02 PM, Blogger Vignesh said...

Jax: Geographical separation and as I mentioned, trust, are two problems with your proposed solution. I have to agree though, that what you said, is probably the only way to do it. Just have to figure out how.

Grrl: Do you ?

 
At February 28, 2005 12:08 AM, Blogger Grafxgurl said...

hmm.. a very loaded question.. lol a very loaded question..

 
At February 28, 2005 12:10 AM, Blogger Vignesh said...

But in a very small package... don't you just love those ?!?! ;)

 
At February 28, 2005 2:41 AM, Blogger Kumari said...

What baffles me the most is..all of you are busy commenting, so how does that make Monday bad? shouldn't it be wonderful, in dat case? ;)

 
At February 28, 2005 2:47 AM, Blogger Vignesh said...

HHAHAAH !! Thats an excellent point. Last night though, I didn't know how it would turn out. So...

And in my defense, and making sure that I still have a job, I have finished reading 2 papers and am getting to work on the third ! So there !

 
At February 28, 2005 4:12 AM, Blogger Kumari said...

I discovered 4 bugs, fixed 3, injected 2, never will find that CRITICAL one ;-)

I rest my case, M'Lord!

 
At February 28, 2005 5:28 AM, Blogger Vignesh said...

I love watching people debug software... its such a wonderfully, revelaing experience ;)

 
At February 28, 2005 6:34 AM, Blogger Kumari said...

Did you say revealing? ;)

 
At February 28, 2005 8:14 AM, Blogger Vignesh said...

Yes, revealing indeed. Not only on the part of the software, but on the part of the person too !

Did you find the critical one ?

Begin geek story:

Once for a project, we guys were having some serious issues with the code that we had written for our pre-emptive scheduler. The board that we were using had its own HAL and its own APIs. Some one had forgotten to mention to us that the calls to enter a critical section could not be chained, and you had to exit one CS before you make a request for another mutex. Man, that took us 40 hours sleepless hours to debug, till someone came and told us what our bug was.

End of geek story.

Gnite, Lady K.

 
At February 28, 2005 7:38 PM, Blogger Kumari said...

The only HAL i know is HIndustan Aeronautics Limited, dude! And i hope to let it stay that way for another zillion years :)

G'Morning Sir!

 
At February 28, 2005 9:22 PM, Blogger Vignesh said...

HAL = Hardware Abstraction Layer ;)

 

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